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The Wedding Toast, A Groom's Guide |
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Written by Milton Kenny
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Tuesday, 10 November 2009 08:24 |
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Weddings can be complex events that have more much "going on" than is evident at the surface. This is part of the reason that the groom's wedding toast is more important than many might initially find it to be. The groom must remember to thank a wide-array of people ranging from his guest to, of course, his wife. The wedding speech process can be all the more daunting for those who are afraid of public speaking. Not to worry, however, as there are some easy and simple ways that any groom can write a great groom's wedding toast. With a little planning and thought your groom's wedding speech can make you look like a funny and original guy who also has a sense of humor!
by MiltonKenny
Weddings can be complex events that have more much "going on" than is evident at the surface. This is part of the reason that the groom's wedding toast is more important than many might initially find it to be. The groom must remember to thank a wide-array of people ranging from his guest to, of course, his wife. The wedding speech process can be all the more daunting for those who are afraid of public speaking. Not to worry, however, as there are some easy and simple ways that any groom can write a great groom's wedding toast. With a little planning and thought your groom's wedding speech can make you look like a funny and original guy who also has a sense of humor!
On most occasions, the groom's toast is one that largely focuses on thanking family and friends for their contributions and time. Of course, any groom worth his salt will want to thank his wife as well. Usually the groom's speech comes after the father of the bride's speech. Hopefully, the father of bride has said some nice or even great things about you, which should make the transition to your speech a bit easier.
The groom's speech is one that needs to be focused and precise. After all, you have a limited amount of time and many people to thank. Those who have made big contributions to your wedding should most definitely be thanked and in a big way. When you sit down to write your speech think for a moment about any contributions to your wedding that stand out as being funny or impressive in some fashion. Such a story is a great way to inject a little humor or life into your speech as well. Considering that there will be many speeches at your wedding it is a good idea to make sure that your speech does not exceed five minutes.
Of course, try not to leave anyone out of your speech. Wedding mistakes of this nature can often wound ego, but no pressure.
The Guests. Some of your guests likely traveled just to see you get married. Keep this in mind when you are thanking people for their time. Also many of your guests have given you some pretty nice gifts, so why not thank them?
The Guests. Of course, you should thank your guest. In theory, your guests have spent a little bit of money on your wedding gifts, so there is so reason to be thankful towards them. Briefly thank them for spending their time with you on your wedding day, and make special note of any guests who have traveled a long distance to be at your wedding.
Thank Those Who Made Special Contributions. With all the commotion and occasional chaos that is a wedding, it is often easy to forget to thank all sorts of guests. Try and not forget anyone who lent an extra hand to make sure your wedding was a well-planned and fun event for all involved. This group often includes wedding planners, bridesmaids and groomsmen. More than likely some of these contributions would make great stories in your speech.
The Bride. If you forget to thank your bride, you are in a lot of trouble. Obviously thanking your bride should be a "no-brainer." Feel free to express your love of her and tell her how beautiful she is on her wedding day. Make sure that you look into her eyes when addressing her, and end the toast with her.
-Whatever you do, don't try and be someone else. No one wants to see your Steve Martin impression.
-Be yourself. Don't put on an act.
-Keep a cheat sheet on hand and don't be afraid to look at it.
-Eye contact is key. When thanking someone look them in the eye.
-Write your speech out and practice!
About the Author:
Milton Kelly offers etiquette suggestions on topics including weddings, proper manners and groomsmen gifts. |
